Hi friends, I apologize for being M.I.A. on my personal digital channels as of late. I’ve been going through some personal things that I hope to share more about soon. But for now, I wanted to share some helpful advice and tips that have helped me the past couple of weeks. Many thanks to those of you who sent me their recommendations on how to take your mind off of things via Instagram. Something that has really stuck by me as of late is that it’s okay, to not be okay. The more you act like everything’s fine, and the more that you continue to put on a front, the harder and harder things will be later on. If you need to put on some loud music and cry, just cry and let it all out! If you need to bombard your friends and vent the night away, do it because that’s what they’re there for and if they don’t want to listen to you, especially when you’re going through a tough time, then they’re NACHO friends.
Whatever you do, don’t just sit there, stuffing your face and feeling sorry for yourself. Try your best to stay busy to keep your mind from wandering. Continue to engage in your every day hobbies- for me that’s working out! Find a new show on Netflix/Hulu to binge watch. Listen to a podcast, my faves at the moment are My Favorite Murder, Happy Hour with Jamie Ivey, Girls Gotta Eat, Him & Her, and any of the Bachelor Nation spin offs. Read a book, my recent faves are It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way by Lysa TerKeurst (thanks to my friend, Lindsay for sending it my way) and The Dorito Effect by Mark Schatzker. Take a quick trip somewhere or just get some fresh air by taking a stroll outside. Facetime or chat with your friends on the phone. And most importantly, treat yo self because you deserve it!
I’m a FIRM believer that everything happens for a reason, and when I’m scared, angry, hurt, sad and confused I have always tried to turn to faith and it has always picked me back up. Not trying to preach or anything here, but I strongly believe that God has a reason and a purpose for all of us. Often times when things aren’t going as planned, I go into a dark place because sometimes it’s hard to practice what you preach, which is why I literally have Psalm 46:10, “be still” tattooed on me as a constant reminder to myself to be patient and know that God is with me every step of the way.
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Outfit: Blazer- & Other Stories, turtleneck- Zara, pleather pants-Asos, mules- Zara.