Hello friends, it’s been forever! If you follow me on Instagram, you know I’ve been busy catching-up on life since my healthy scare. I FINALLY became a California resident last week 👏 and have been doing more of what locals do.
And today, I’m here to share that today marks my first day in my 30’s. I cannot believe I’m no longer 20 something… Time seriously flies! It’s funny, I always thought I’d be married with two or three kids by now, but here I am living in a nice and spacious apartment in sunny California, surrounded by palm trees, mountains and beaches. It’s funny how life can be so unpredictable at times.
Sharing 29 life lessons I learned over the years to hopefully inspire YOU to live life to your absolutely fullest! If you have any lessons you’ve learned over the years, comment below and let me know! After all, sharing is caring :).
Live life with no regrets. Stop being scared of the “what if’s,” and go after the things you want!
Quality over quantity, especially when it comes to friendships. I have always been a social butterfly. I love meeting new people and talking, but at the end of the day, not every friendship is substantial and your time is precious. Also, just because you’ve known someone for 10 years, doesn’t necessarily mean that person is the same person forever. Friendships change, similar to how people change. It’s important to have quality friends who share the same interests and passions as you, and can support you, and you can support them along the way.
Don’t compare yourself to others. Easily said than done. Let’s be real. Who hasn’t compared their body to Victoria’s Secret models?! I know it’s tough, but you have to learn to be comfortable in your own skin.
Read ingredients. It’s crucial to know what is going into and onto your body. Vani Hart of Foodbabe definitely opened my eyes to all the toxic products I was consuming and using, and yes, a lot of them cause cancer.
Everything happens for a reason. Stop moping around about things that didn’t go the way you want them to, and focus on the present! You can learn from the past and focus on the future.
Travel often. I used to make excuses for myself, especially because I traveled a lot for work. You have to make time for yourself to enjoy the good things in life. There’s so much to see, so much to eat and so much to do.
Life is short. My recent cancer scare really put my life into perspective. You never know where life can take you, so seriously live life to the fullest.
Mental health is important for your overall health. I cannot stress this enough! See a therapist if you can or have a close family member/friend to open up to. I promise you, you will feel 100% better.
Always have faith, no matter what. I was born into Catholicism, and was forced to go to church every Sunday. When I moved out during my mid-twenties, I made the choice to go to church every Sunday. I’ve made the choice to read and learn more about my religion. I made the choice to believe in God, and trust in his plan for me. It’s so important to find your salvation, whatever religion that might be.
Family is everything, especially now more than ever. I always forget that my parents are getting older, just as I am getting older. Nothing comes closer than your own blood, so make an effort to spend time and make memories with the ones you love.
It’s okay to ask for help. I’m a very independent person, and I don’t like to ask for aid in any way. If there’s something I want to buy, I would work for it. If there’s something I needed help lifting, I figured out a way to carry it. Sometimes, it’s perfectly okay to ask your family and/or friends to help. That’s what they’re there for.
Nobody is perfect. Stop comparing your life to what social media might portray. Everyone has their own insecurities and issues.
It’s okay to not be okay. You don’t always have to put a smile on your face. If you’re not feeling 100%, don’t fake it.
Find your routines. It’s so important to have some sort of go-to schedule so you’re not moping around when you’re not feeling your best.
Grow from every relationship, whether it’s the ones you share with friends or a significant other. This will help you grow into a stronger person and be a better version of yourself.
Create the life you want. Don’t wait around for someone to hand it to you.
Listen to your gut feeling and intuition because most often then not, you’ll be right.
Be yourself at all times. No need to fake it on first dates or people you want to be liked by. If a friend or a man can’t accept you at your worst, they can’t have you at your best!
If you want something or want to do something, ask! No one can read your mind.
Focus on your health! Find a workout that you like to do, and eat your veggies and fruit. You need to preserve your body, especially as you get older.
Treat others as you want to be treated.
You don’t have to be liked by everyone.
Fake it till you make it. If you don’t know something, google it and learn it!
Be smart with your money. Just because you want a designer purse and you have the means to purchase it, doesn’t mean you should! Save for your future. There have been so many times when I thought I was financially stable one day, and the next day I needed to purchase 4 new tires for my car. Don’t confuse your “NEEDS” for your “WANTS.”
Make time for yourself.
Learn from your peers, leaders, and opportunities. One of my mentors once told me, “if you don’t feel like you’re learning at your job, it’s time to leave.” You never want to feel comfortable! You need to challenge your brain!
Be honest to others, and to yourself!
This is something I’ve been struggling with for so long, but stop saying SORRY! Especially when it’s not your fault.
This is something I plan on practicing more, but live IRL (in real life), and be PRESENT.